Movenber Part 4. Masturbation - Red Tube - Endorphins

Red tube is a porn site, please be patient.

In part 2, I talked about our Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs. Our biological or Somatic needs; Breathing, Drinking, Eating, Excreting, Sleeping and Sex. Our somatic needs are pure energy over which we have no control. If these basic needs are not met, the body is unable to function sufficiently to consider any other needs. We will kill to meet these needs. This is base chakra stuff.

With our biological needs met (sex?), safety needs; security, home, employment, finance, will dominate. Anything that makes us feel unsafe, like Covid19, will activate our primal, safety and somatic needs. Our base and first chakras will be out of balance, our focus turns inwards. We become a boil waiting to burst. Maslow describes these first two levels as our Survival Needs. We return to these needs at moments of uncertainty and stress. Many of us are here right now, a boil about to explode.

Our somatic need for sex creates frustration, anger, violence, death and destruction on a worldwide scale. Domestic violence and sexual abuse by men will reach pandemic levels because of the virus. Men need help, not condemning, as they have no control over their somatic needs.

Here is an amusing tale, taken from a blog I wrote in March 2018. A welsh hymn, for Saint David’s day:

 Bread of Heaven, bread of heaven, feed me till I want no more.

In ancient history the men (Boys 16-24) were sent into battle first. Best chance of winning.  However, after saying goodbye to their wife’s and girlfriends they also needed to visit the ‘Spiritual Ones’ the elders of the tribe to receive priming for battle. Simple! They made them orgasm whilst singing ‘bread of heaven, bread of heaven, feed me till I want no more. I have heard this standing on the pitch at the old, Cardiff Arms Park. I still shiver. They went into battle energised by the elders. On returning from battle the ‘Men’ had to visit the elders again.  This time to let of steam, to de-compress before returning to their wife’s and girlfriends, the Lion calmed and ready for love.

That energy needs calming or the boil will explode.

What I am trying to say is sex and love are not the same. I had been conditioned to believe they were by my parents, teachers, religion and the media. My conditioning was shattered upon reading M. Scott Peck, The Road Less Travelled. In particular the chapter entitled, ‘The myth of romantic love’. Obtaining freedom from my social conditioning would take many years but the seeds, now germinated, would continue to grow.

Meanwhile, its Movember 2020, men’s health month. My goal is to bring an awareness of the problem facing almost every man as some point in his life. A tip (ha ha) that may help…

I sing, ‘bread of heaven’ to myself on a regular basis. Its free, its fun and the endorphin hit comes from your body’s own morphine supply, but most of all…

It soothes and helps boils burst naturally. An orgasm reduces inflammation throughout the body.

The Journal of Psychology & Human Sexuality, Volume 14, Numbers 2/3 2002, said in its publication, Masturbation as a Means of Achieving Sexual Health;

‘A 2002 report from a large British population of men said researchers found a 50 percent reduction in overall mortality in the group of men who said they had the most orgasms. Having regular orgasms can increase your life span. Every time you reach orgasm, the hormone DHEA increases in response to sexual excitement and orgasm. DHEA can boost your immune system, improve cognition, keep skin healthy, and even work as an antidepressant. Therefore, the added health benefit is that you will feel-and look-younger, longer.’ 

Maslow says our sex drive is a basic human need, it is the body’s natural endorphin provider, pleasure giver and source of your life force energy.  This is not about love and family, its about you and your base chakra.

I have just finished listening an excellent Podcast series, Rainbow Dads. The presenter Nicholas, interviews three gay dads, making a group of four men who 'came out', in front of a wife and children. Many parallels with 'straight' men, me for one, living a façade behind a miserable soul. They discussed masturbation. When gay men find a new partner, that partner will often feel hurt or rejected if the man continues to indulge in such dirty words as, wanker, tosser, jerk offer, your pulling my plonker, it will send you blind etc. My first wife Kerry once said, 'you don't need to do that anymore, you have me. 

Self pleasure is  the correct term in my book. However men, you only get one life so...

A good wife or partner will run the bath or make the bed for you, candles even, and welcome back the destressed and relaxed man after he soothes his boil.  If she or he needs help understanding, please share this blog with them.

And if you need help, Red Tube is only two clicks away.

Enjoy

Ps, I did giggle on March 1^st 2019, St David’s Day, when my original blog had 100+ views. Probably not what they were expecting!